12 May, 2009

Homeless Couple's Dream Wedding

WASHINGTON (AFP) – The groom wore a black tuxedo, a damask-rose pink waistcoat and tie, and an ear-to-ear smile.

He picked out his wedding outfit at a mall in Virginia -- his first time ever in one of the sprawling shopping centers that are monuments to consumerism in the suburban landscape across the United States.

During his 14 years living homeless on the streets of Washington, Dante White, 28, never realized that so much opulence existed. Nor had he had much luck in love in his life, having been thrown out of his mother's home when he was just 14.

Last week, White married Nhiahni Chestnut, 39, a woman whose battles with drugs and alcohol had left her on the streets of the US capital as well. Both are unemployed.

"I was basically living from day to day, trying to survive, and I wound up meeting him," Chestnut told AFP at the couple's wedding, held in the tiny chapel of Grace Episcopal Church in Washington's Georgetown neighborhood.

"We've been together ever since. That was nine years ago. He was outside. It kind of clicked because we were in kind of the same situation. We started hanging out with each other, talking," she said.

The two also frequented a Bible study and meal program run by Grace Episcopal Church on Saturdays. It was there, a few months ago, that White, 28, revealed to a parishioner how much he wished he could afford to marry the woman who had brought light into his life on the streets.

"Everyone at the church feels strongly that you don't need to have money to get married," said Margaret Davis.

"In good Grace church congregation fashion, everyone got behind the idea: one person managed flowers, I helped with the wedding rings, one woman made the cake, someone helped with the tux and someone else with the bride's gown," she said.

Another churchgoer paid for a two-night honeymoon stay at the Key Bridge Marriott Hotel across the Potomac River in Virginia.

For Pastor John Graham, marrying White and Chestnut was a first, but in many other ways, it was just like marrying any other couple.

"The difference is, they're homeless."

After the service, the bride and groom posed for photos and, in the church annex where they gather on Saturdays for Bible study and a meal, they fed each other slices of chocolate layer cake.

"This is beyond my wildest dreams. This is exactly how I wanted my wedding to be," said the bride.

The couple's break from the streets, however, will be brief.

Soon, their dream wedding and honeymoon will be just a memory as they face the very real battle to survive on the mean streets of Washington, where White says: "You have to sleep with one eye open."

Having pulled off the miracle nuptials, Grace Church parishioners are working on the next steps of building a future for the couple: looking for affordable housing, money to pay a security deposit and a few bits and pieces to allow them to set up house together.

"There is a certain element of urgency to this," said Davis.

"Love will get them through so much, but at the end of the day they do need housing," she said.

(To view full story by Karin Zeitvogel Karin Zeitvogel, go to news.yahoo.com 5/7/09)

I John 2:16-18 [NIV] 

16This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. 17If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? 18Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.

 

What does God's Story teach us about living a life of grace and love?

Today's story sounds like a parable that Jesus would have told. It would likely have started something like, "The Kingdom of God is like a church that went all out to give a homeless couple a wedding that they could not afford, did not deserve and would never forget..."

What a great picture of what The Church is supposed to look like! And how appropriate it is that the name of this church starts with GRACE! Grace, by definition, is getting something that you don't deserve. Grace is what this church has shown, with extravagance I might add, to this undeserving couple. Grace is what God calls us to share daily with everyone that we encounter...why?...because grace, with utmost extravagance, has been shown to us through Jesus Christ.

How can we connect today's story and God's Story with my story? 

  • Start by taking yet another close look at the unbelievable grace that God has shown to you through Jesus Christ and spend some time thanking Him today. We were undeserving and homeless in an eternal sense...but He changed all of that. We should be overflowing with gratefulness.
  • Look at the needs around you. You likely know someone who has recently lost a job, a single mom who needs a hand or perhaps someone who is homeless. Personally, I know multiple people in all three of those situations. God has made a clear call to His Church...respond to these needs! If we don't, how can we say that the love of God is in us?
  • If you don't happen to know of a need like these, call your church and ask. Churches are being overwhelmed with requests for help right now. You can be a tangible expression of God's grace this week! 

 

How can we connect today's story, God's Story and my story with my friend's story?

  • Think how this couple must have felt. Think about how the adulterous woman to whom Jesus showed grace and forgiveness felt. Think how you felt when you have been given something you don't deserve. What a great privilege it is to go out and share that same kind of grace with others! 
  • Imagine if the estimated 2 billion Christians in the world lived lives of grace as is demonstrated in today's story!?! Just think what would happen if we each saw a need and worked to meet it in Jesus' name!?! The foster care system would not be needed. Homeless shelters would be closed down. Welfare would be a thing of the past. And more importantly, there would be a lot more than 2 billion Christians!  
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